Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I’m from a very small town in the Eastern Cape and now I am living with my aunty in Cape Town.
I am working in her spaza shop.
I never finished school and she gave me this job. I am very thankful. My ma ook. I am 20 years old.
I was dating a local girl for about four months and then she suddenly told me she can’t be with me because her family says I am not good enough for her.
Her friends and family don't like me.
Is it because I work in a spaza? They are nogals larney.
She called me three weeks ago and she said we can be friends only, but that I mustn’t call her and she will message me when she can.
Auntie, I love this girl so much. Please, I need your help.
A My sweetie pie, you don’t need help – you need a hug and someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are!
You have clearly been dealt a few difficult cards in your life hartjie, and yet you sound so humble and thankful it makes Auntie’s hart klop tjoklits!
And then you even found love, but then this girl comes and turns your world, and your heart, upside down.
No man, what’s wrong with this versinne girl and her family talking a gat in her kop and being all larney?
You don’t need that kind of negative energy in your life, hartjie.
And yes, you think you love her but how can you love a girl who degrades you, hurts you, badmouths you and tunes you “don't call me, I’ll call you”?
Maybe she’s also suffering under the pressure and demands of her family, or maybe she’s just using them as an excuse to shoo you off.
Either way, Auntie skeem you really shouldn't be bothered with this girl for much longer.
You have been given a great opportunity to make something of yourself, so rather focus on that.
One day soon you will meet a girl who loves you for you.