Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, I feel like my heart is tied to a rock and I am just sinking deeper and deeper into the ocean.
You see, it is because I am in love with a bandiet.
He has been in the mang for over a year now, but before that we were dating for three years.
I don’t know why he is in jail, because he always was very private.
I do not think he is a bad man, and even though he always acted tough with his friends, he was a softie at home.
He does not have any nommer tattoos, so I don’t think he is in a gang.
But Auntie, must I keep waiting for my berk? And how long must I wait?
I really miss him and I am scared that I will live too much of my life alone.
He says he will be out in a couple of months, but he said that before and it never comes.
There are a few other ouens who are showing an interest in me, but I have been faithful.
Do you think I should move on?
From Lonesome Lilly
A
Girl, jy gaan jou mind moet opmaak.
Auntie is not going to tell you what to do, because I suspect you have already made your choice, and just need a little push to go through with it.
So let Auntie guide you.
Ask yourself these questions, and answer them truthfully:
*Do you see a future with a criminal?
*What good has he brought to your life, in the past and now while he is agter tralies?
*And do you trust him?
This story of him not wanting to tell you why he was jailed makes Auntie very nervous.
Wat stiek hy weg?
Just because he does not have tjappies, or maybe he has and you just haven’t seen them, does not mean he is not in a gang.
To be honest, Auntie smells a rat, and no woman should allow a man to play with her like this.
It anyway sounds like you are ready to kick this skollie to the curb, and is just looking for someone to back you up in your decision.
Search your heart and think about the future when you make your decision.
While you’re waiting for this guy to come out of the mang, you could be missing out on a really good relationship with someone else.
But don’t be hasty, my girl.
Give yourself some time to get over your bandiet, if you need to, and find out what you want in love and life and then go for it.