Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, I am 21 years old and I am really worried.
I have never been in a serious relationship, Auntie.
I’m really worried I’ll be single forever. Why can’t I meet anyone?
A
Angelface, why on earth are you worried about this at 21?
Jinne, man, you are still ’n jong mens, it’s really not something Auntie skeem you need to worry your pretty little head about.
This is a universal question, which spans generations, hartjie.
There is still lots of time to date and choose and be in a relationship and then eventually settle down, if daai’s what you smaak to do.
Being single now even if it’s been for a long time does not mean you’ll always be single. But if you want a relationship, you can’t be passive, nuh.
Meaning, don’t sit on your bum and wait for a stukkie to fall in your lap.
You need to be open to all opportunities, get involved in activities that interest you, go out and meet mense. And it’s important to make tjommies; friendship can lead to romance.
But also, don’t press too hard and scare off a potential berk because you are so focused on wanting a long-term relationship.
And some wisdom from Auntie to you: what you think you want might not be what you actually need.