Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, I am a ball of stress. It’s been a long year and while I am finally on holiday, I am getting married on 3 January.
You can just imagine how mal it has been these past couple of weeks.
I’m actually ok with the organising, and I am not even worried about anything going wrong, or nervous about my hubby-to-be.
My problem is my one bridesmaid. Auntie, the t**f is being onbeskof.
It started with some comments. She hinted that I might want to lose some weight for the big day.
Then I heard she was skinnering to my other friends about how ugly she thinks some of my decoration choices are. This was now already a few months ago.
It has gotten much worse since then. It is like she is not interested in me at all, she does not comment or like my posts on social media, only sometimes when she “laughs” at me when I say something, like I am nervous or that I hope nothing goes wrong.
She didn’t even come to my birthday party last month.
What must I do? Must I just ignore her as well and keep her as a bridesmaid, or must I confront her and kick her out of the wedding?
From Blushing Bride Bernice
A
My goodness Bernice, what are you waiting for? You don’t need this drama in your life, especially not this close to your special day.
Auntie is a bit surprised that you have not confronted her already.
You sound like a girl who has dinge together, so why are you shying away from this confrontation?
I take it this probleemkind is a friend, since she is in your wedding. Auntie just wonders what made her turn so morsig. Could it be that she is jealous of you?
Whatever the reason, you can’t let her get away with it.
The first thing you have to do is to talk to her. Don’t be a pushover, you have to tune her straight that you are gatvol of her behaviour, and that you want to know what’s her storie.
Now Auntie can’t imagine what a good enough excuse could be for you to keep her in the wedding, but you have to give her a chance.
If you don’t smaak what she has to say, vertel her she is out of the wedding. And she can sommer bly by die huis and not even bother coming to the reception.
Remember meisie, this is one of the biggests and happiest days of your life, and the people who share it with you should be your loved ones and real friends.