Q Hi Auntie P, I know you probably get a lot of emails like this, but here is mine as well.
I’ve just had my first real heartbreak and I don’t know where to go from here.
Everything was kwaai and I was as happy as I have ever been. Then one day out of the blue, this meisie from his past returned. End of story.
What’s worse is that he tuned me the break-up is not about her, but a few days later I found out that he had cheated on me.
Where do I go from here? I feel like I’m stuck in life, floating in a void. I’ve started jogging. But other than that, how do I keep going on with my life?
We have many of the same friends, so I’m lonely now. My family and I aren’t close, so I can’t turn to them.
Don’t get me wrong, Auntie, I definitely don’t want that joller back! But what do I do next? How do I get to the better part of my life?
A Ag shame, hartjie. Kom hier soe Auntie vir jou ‘n drukkie gee. It’s never lekker to have to deal with heartbreak. Especially that first big one.
Make no mistake, the second and third ones are also pretty eina. Actually, it always feels vrot, every single time.
But don’t let this put you off from looking for love, because when you find the right person, all that previous heartache will seem worth it.
Anyone who has been through what you are stuck in now, knows how much it sucks. That first real heartache leaves everyone feeling stuck and directionless.
And the truth is, there is no one answer to how you can get through it.
The best advice Auntie can give is for you to just take it day by day. Only time can heal a broken heart.
The pain, the emptiness, it will slowly fade away as the days go by. It might take a week, a month, or even a year, but one day you are going to wake up and realise that the pain is gone and that you are already moving in a new direction.
Keep your head up girla. Keep living your life and do what makes you happy, like jogging and also trying to make new tjommies.
And before you can say “fully loaded steak gatsby” you are going to be happy.