Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I’m a girl who is 15 years old and I have a boyfriend.
I am so very in love with him.
There is a problem − one of my close girlfriends saw him kissing another girlie.
I told him to voetsek, but he said it wasn’t the truth and it didn’t happen.
I broke up with him, but not even two days later, and we were back together.
I think him and this girl still have something going on.
I asked her last week, but she says no they don’t see each other.
I asked him and he also says no.
But he doesn’t even want to give me his WhatsApp number, so then what is he hiding?
What do I do now?
From Brokenhearted girl.
A Aai jirre meisiekind, so in love but so confused. Die lewe is mos swaar as mens jonk is!
You are so seriously in love the one moment, and so seriously over it the next.
So tell me sweetheart, what do you skeem you should do if this outjie doesn’t even want to give you his number… then he mos has something to hide, of hoe?
Angel, now you must listen, so take out those earphones:
In Auntie’s opinion one of two things are going on – your outjie is messing with you, or your tjommie is messing with you.
But ask yourself: why would your tjommies tell you lies about him?
I’m sorry, but this outjie sounds like bad news, girl.
You mos don’t need this drama in your life. Or do you smaak the drama? Be honest, meisie...
If you now really feel you want to continue with this relationship, then you should put your trust issues aside and stop accusing him.
Because maybe your berk and this other geitjie are telling you the truth.
This is where you have to trust your gut!
But, as jy ’n slang in die gras ruik, dan is daar heel moontlike ’n moerse mamba, or like my mammie always said, where there’s smoke there’s a fire.
On the other hand, your BFF might be taking you for a gat because she’s jealous of your berk, and of the time you are spending with him, and not with her. Soos die mense altyd sê, jealousy makes you nasty, and nasty makes you fat!
Anyway hartjie, Auntie realizes this is a tricky situation and you’re still so young, but you are going to have to trust yourself on this one.
Yes, you’ve heard what your tjommie, your berk and this other girla has to say. But the question remains, why doesn’t he want to give his number?
Honestly, Auntie’s first gedagte would be, what is this mannetjie hiding?
You don’t want to be verlief op ’n guy who is lying to you and leading a double life like he skeems he’s some kind of superhero.
If you’re smelling something fishy, there’s probably a snoek kop somewhere.
If you feel he’s not being 100 percent honest with you, las dit!
You deserve an outjie who’s going to treat you like a princess, not like a second hand, hand-me-down sweater with a fake Adidas sign that no-one even wanted in the first place. Take care of yourself, meisie, it’s a cruel world out there.