Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I’m 22 years old and my boyfriend is 27 years old.
We have been blessed with twins, they are almost two years old.
I love my little girls and would do anything for them.
The thing is he cheats on me, and I have found out about it, there have been three times.
I forgave him and I also thought things would then change, but he cheats on me too much.
He really hurts me and when I want to leave him to go to my Ma, then he tells me I’m spoiled and think I am fancy and that’s why I want to leave him.
He says that because I was not working, and now I have a job.
Every time he says he loves me, but I don’t think I believe him anymore.
A Oh, my dear sweet Shams, your probbie makes Auntie so heartsore.
Now Shams, this is quite a difficult situation – especially taking into consideration your children.
But you have a big problem. Having unhappy parents is not in the best interest of your kids.
This man of yours probeer jou’n gat in die kop praat, sweetness!
He’s trying to make you feel guilty and nogals trying to blame you for his cheating.
What kind? Yoh! Die man klink mos versin. Don’t let him do this. Don’t let him make this your fault!
He cheated, not you!
Sweetie pie, you’ve bettered yourself by getting a job and sorting out your life, you forgave this liegbek joller and now he’s trying to tell you it’s all your fault – genoeg is genoeg!
Don’t you skeem it’s time to leave him once and for all?
He’s constantly cheating on you, lying to you, and making you feel like last week’s breyani.
He’s making you unhappy, setting a terrible example for your twins, bringing God knows what kind of STIs into your bed, en om alles te kroon, he’s trying to make this all sound like your fault.
Listen to your heart, meisiekind. You know what you have to do.
Auntie doesn’t have to tell you. You’re a clever girl, now maak him wys!