Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, thank you for reading my email. My name is Daisy and I have a problem with my berk:He steals from my mom and me.
The first time it was R20 that I noticed was missing from my wallet. I asked him about it and he just tuned me I must have spent it and just don’t remember. But Auntie, I do not have a lot of money so I know where every cent goes.
He totally denied it, and I felt bad for even suspecting him. I took him out for a drink and fulfilled one of his fantasies in bed that night.
Then it happened again, and this time it was R50. Daai is a lot of money for me!
I even busted him, because I found the note in his broeksak. He was dik upset and begged me to not skel him. He had a whole story about being scared of losing his job and being under stress, and that he doesn’t know why he took the money. He says it was just a mal moment.
Auntie, it gets worse. Last week after dinner at my parents’, my mom’s silver necklace went missing. My boyfriend denies he took it, but I can see in his eyes he is lying.
This week, a pair of gold earrings I got from my ouma went missing… you see what I’m saying, Auntie?
I mos know my berk is the one stealing. He now has a story of having blackouts and says he can’t even remember being at my parents’ place.
Should I report him to the police? He says my mommy and I are mal, and he refuses to admit what he does.
From Daisy
A
Girl, you can mos see this guy is robbing you blind. Maak oop jou oë and accept that he is a skollie! Don’t fall for his denials and blackout excuses, you caught him red-handed. What more do you want? Do you want to wait for him to steal the clothes from your back and the food from your mouth?
He can’t just keep going on robbing people, dit werk nie so nie. And then nogals using blackouts as an excuse – where did he see that one, on Dr Phil?
The reality is that you know what is going on. Jy’s mos nie dof nie. You didn’t spend that money, and you (and your mommy) didn’t lose your jewellery.
Auntie would actually suggest you dump this guy, but matters of the heart are not that simple.
If he has no desire to change, you will have to call the cops on him. Maybe that will scare him into getting rid of whatever condition he apparently has, or to at least change his skollie maniere.
He needs to get help, or he needs to get out of your life. As soon as possible.