Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I’ve known this guy for years and we’ve been friends for a while.
But I moved to another place.
This one night I saw him for the first time after a year and a few months.
We both were so happy to see each other again after such a long time and we hugged and talked for a while.
I then went inside to his friends, I greeted the guys and he also came in.
He stood right in front of me and looked me deep in the eyes, then he came closer and we kissed.
Auntie, we then went into one of the rooms and we did the deed.
It was my second time, it was very sore and I even cried, but after a while, it got so lekker I wanted to moan out loud, but I couldn’t because our friends were in the living room.
Anyway, after a few days, I was feeling weird and sick and I suspected that I was pregnant with his child. I was so worried. All the symptoms were there.
A few weeks went by and I went to the clinic. It was confirmed that I was three months pregnant.
Sjoe, that was a very stressful few weeks for me.
I cried every day and I was so depressed and disappointed in myself because I fell pregnant of a one night stand.
Afterwards, I also found out that he had a meisie who is also pregnant.
Gosh! And it was also the year after I matriculated.
I then decided to abort my baby.
I was so stressed out and scared of what my family might say. I was scared that people might judge me.
Two weeks later I went to my friend’s house and I bumped into him and then I told him about the pregnancy and abortion.
He was furious. Apparently, he would’ve stood by me and supported me.
He told me that his girl had a miscarriage and now I’m telling him this...
We had sex again. Damn, it was so sore but I did it because I wanted him. I just wanted to be close to him.
Thank goodness I was on the injection because he told me that he was going to “gooi vas” again.
Auntie Pearl, three months after that my friend told me that this girlfriend of his was never knocked up, the b!tch faked it.
I was so spyt because Auntie if she wasn’t kamstag pregnant then I would have never aborted my child.
Auntie Pearl, I stayed away from that place for months.
I then went there this one day and saw him with this other kin, only to find out that she is pregnant with his laaitie.
Ek was so jaloers and angry at the same time.
When I got home I just cried.
I went on my knees and begged God to take away the pain that I’m feeling.
I just wanted closure after the abortion, but he moved on. And there are also so many unsaid things from my side.
I’m in love with him and I pray for him more than I pray for myself.
Auntie, his child is born and he and the baby mama are not together anymore.
Auntie, I’m in love with him.
I carried his child in 2017 and went for a T.O.P. It’s now 2019 and here I am, still madly in love with this guy.
Should I tell him how I feel?
I’m so scared, Auntie Pearl. What if he rejects me?
I think of him every day. Maybe I should just tell him how I feel and get it out of my system.
Auntie Pearl, please help me. I really need your advice.
A Meisie, Auntie is sorry to hear about all the hard times you had to go through with the pregnancy and heartbreak, but you listen bleddie close to what Auntie has to say now: Jy sit nie weer jou gat naby aan daai man nie.
Sorry, girl, but he just sounds like bad news.
Jinne, in the past two years this guy has been making babies all over the place!
And these are just the ones you know of.
Believe jy maar vir Auntie, there are probably more poor girls sitting with a broodjie in the oven because of this guy and his joller maniere.
It’s understandable that you have some complicated feelings for him, you did think you love him and carried his baby.
But you can absolutely not let him keep a hold on your heart.
Don’t believe his liegstories that he will support you and the baby, a joller like this has only one thing on the brain.
You are not special to him.
Raak wys, girl, every time he had sex with you, he had a girlfriend. On top of that, he dropped this girl who had his baby.
That’s mos not how a gentleman acts.
Auntie thinks you need to get this whole situation off your chest.
Your email to me was your first move, but you need closer support.
Talk about this to a trusted family member or close friend.
They won’t judge you if you really open up and confide in them.
Everyone knows that we all make mistakes, but the important thing is that we learn from it.
Find someone who you can talk to, and who will support you in moving on with your life.
Forget that vieslike guy, hou jou bene toe, build a life for yourself, and look for a man who will treat you right.