Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I am like, so unhappy and I don’t know what to do.
The thing is this, my heart is in a mess because my one true love decided I am gham and now he’s bymekaar with another meisie.
He even wysed me in front of her that he won’t date me. We all live in the same court.
I can’t stand to see the two of them together, and they are not skaam about it and in front of everybody they kiss and alles and they think they look so kwaai.
I will never move on. This boy was the one for me auntie.
I am 18 years old but I know it’s the truth.
If I am honest we were friends and not technically a couple or bymekaar, but I was so hoping he would actually ask me out and realise I am his person.
I want him back from that girl and I need you to help me auntie.
A Oh dear, my young Chini.
This boy troubles sounds like an e.tv rom-com meisie, teenage drama delux!
Shame girly, auntie remembers what it was like to be young and have your heart ripped out of your chest.
But do you want to know a secret, my girl?
Nothing this auntie says or suggests will make the pain go away or make you happy, skattebol.
This is one of those life experiences you have to go through and only time can heal.
Kykie, as jy nou wil hê auntie moet bietjie aangaan, auntie can wys you that you were never a real couple anyway, that young love never lasts, and that you will get over this teen crush eventually.
But you do need to get on with it, you really can’t waste your youth on a boy who clearly has no maniere.
This is what auntie’s hearing – you are all gaga over him, he knows it and doesn’t care.
Auntie skeem it’s time you stop looking at this boy, and start concentrating on yourself!
Summer is here, soon you’ll hit the beach, it will be festive and you’ll meet other guys.
Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I am 27 years old and I have never been in a serious relationship.
I’ve dated but it never lasts long, maybe a month or so.
My friends even joke about it. I am worried that I will be single forever.
I’m not that bad and I own a small corner shop.
I work a lot. Maybe that’s the problem.
Why can’t I meet anyone?
I’m too shy so I won’t give my name if that’s OK.
A Aai my dearest angelface, you don’t need to give your name but you also don’t need to feel so shy about this.
Auntie can promise you that you are not alone in this bootjie.
This is a universal question which spans generations, hartjie.
Being single now does not mean you’ll always be single and it does not mean you are not good enough to have a lover.
But, if you do want a relationship, you can’t sit on your bum and wait for a stukkie to fall in your lap, this is not the movies, this is real life.
You need to be open to all opportunities, so get involved in activities that interest you, go out and meet mense.
It’s important to make tjommies; friendship can lead to romance.
But also, don’t press too hard because you can skrik off a potential partner; no-one likes the smell of desperation.
And some wisdom from Auntie to you: Don’t sit and steam and stress about the fact that you have no love life. Rather love life, and the love of your life will come at the right time.