Q Dear Pearl, I am so gatvol of men telling me I am beautiful.
I know I am attractive, even though I am 60 years old, I still look like I’m 40.
The thing is that I thought by the time I hit my 50s, I would no longer have to hear men gaan aan about my lekker looks.
I want men to smaak who I am inside, not just the outside.
But they come buzzing around like flies just to get a stukkie, even though I don’t wear makeup and don’t dress up.
What can an older vrou like me do to get men to check me out for my personality and brains, and not just my pretty face, big breasts, booty and long legs?
A Jinne, BB, are you really complaining about looking so good at your age?
Yoh, Auntie kan maar net wens die manne still check me out like that.
The bottom line is that you are good looking, and your looks are always going to attract guys. It’s just the way that the world is.
It seems your good looks are a blessing and a curse.
Auntie can understand that you want a more emotional and intellectual connection, but we live in a superficial world.
So these poor guys coming on to you, they probably think the only way to start a conversation with you is by complimenting you.
And then only once they have “broken the ice” can they start to get to know you.
That said, this is mostly the behaviour of younger guys.
What age men are you hanging out with?
Have you tried going to places with a mature crowd?
You mos don’t want a Ben 10; you should be looking for a silver fox.
Be careful, because a guy who hits on you with an opening line about how hot you are, is probably not looking for a relationship and just wants to get into your pants.
Auntie’s advice to you just sucks it up, buttercup.
Accept the compliment, and then cleverly steer the conversation towards something more substantial and to your liking.
If this ou is looking for love, he will catch on quickly and welcome getting to know you better.
If he keeps on about your boobs and boude, politely excuse yourself and move off.
And, BB, stop complaining and appreciate what you have.
This will make you even more beautiful on the inside.