Q Hello Auntie, I just want to tell you that I am gatvol of my best friend’s attitude.
Maybe she thinks it’s because we have been friends for so long that she can just flap her bek and say whatever she likes and that it won’t hurt me.
We are in our 50s and we have been friends since we were kinders.
The problem is I married my high school berk, and we are very happy, while she married some other vark and soon divorced him.
But then she married again and her second hubby is stinking rich.
Meanwhile, my husband and I do not have a lot of money. We get by.
My friend is now working on my nerves because she is always pointing out things we don’t have.
Dis duidelik that she pities me, maar dis mos nie nodig to make fun of the things in my house!
Auntie, like I said, I am gatvol of her. I don’t even know if it’s worth still having a friendship.
Sometimes I think she is just being this way to make herself feel better, because her husband does not give her much attention, and their children are morsig and spoilt and they have no maniere.
A You might not have her flashy cars and a wallet full of kroon, but maybe you are richer than she will ever be.
Auntie knows it sucks to struggle and get by month to month, and these days we are all feeling the pinch.
Dinge raak mos net duurder and the bosses knyp daai beursie styf vas.
Listen girl, you have a kwaai hubby and your house is filled with love, not with material dinge.
It’s clear to me that your friend is the one who is jealous.
The problem is that instead of admitting to you that she is unhappy, she puts you down to try and make herself feel better, just like you suspect.
So what can you do? You have to tune her straight!
You two have been friends for decades, so just tell her that you cannot take her comments about your life anymore and that she needs to watch her tongue.
Let her know that her comments hurt you.
But also be sympathetic, and ask her whether she is having problems at home.
Maybe she is trying to reach out to you, but is ashamed of her problems.
Bottom line, it seems to Auntie she “has everything in the world”, but is miserable because she does not have what is important, like you have: A happy home.