Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, I’m 21 years of age looking for love in all the wrong places.
So about two years ago I met this nice looking guy who is 24. Jinne, Auntie, I’m talking about drop dead gorgeous.
He came around selling life cover for the company he works at, and started speaking to us about his product but in between he’s giving me hints that he likes me.
Eventually I took the product and he tells me to contact him if I have any queries regarding this product, knowing that there is a toll-free call centre.
I know he was hinting me to message him.
I gave it time and I eventually took the liberty to message him on WhatsApp.
As time passed we got to know each other and I started really liking this guy.
A few months passed and I haven’t seen him yet as I was, and still am, too shy to meet up with him as I am a BIG ( lekker vet) girl and I can’t understand how this sexy b oentjie wants a meisie like me.
And he looks like he’s out of a magazine and we became very attached to each other, phone calls day and night, even to the extent of phone sex.
So my ex and I got back together in March and this WhatsApp guy felt betrayed and started acting strange, telling me I ruined what we had and how we can’t go back from this, and ek mean, I haven’t even met him!
He called me a cheater and even his mom called me asking what have I done.
Now on 22 June I left my boyfriend as this guy then confessed how much he has fallen in love with me and I hurt him so badly.
I decided I want to give him a chance, and I told him, and at first he didn’t want to give me a chance and then all of a sudden at 4am one day, during his breakfast time in Ramadaan, I get a call that he wants a future with me!
Now Auntie, I’m so confused, is all of this just praatjies and is he really in love with me?
This relationship was built on WhatsApp, I don’t know if I did the right thing leaving my berk for this guy, ek mean ma’, he can get any girl he wants.
He’s tall, dark hair, pretty eyes, pretty smile, six pack, the works. And here I am, a fat girl with just a pretty face and green eyes. Why did he choose me?
He keeps telling me not to doubt his feelings for me but I feel like I’m going to wake up and it’s all just a dream, or he’s just doing this for his own entertainment.
Please help me get peace of mind as I am desperate for answers.
From Fatal Lover Girl.
A
Jinne girl, you think you are confused?
Just think for a moment how Auntie must feel….Auntie’s trying to make kop en stert about who’s who in the zoo when it comes to your love life and where your heart truly lies.
OK, girl, first things first – stop putting yourself down like that, calling yourself fat and saying you are not good enough for this handsome hunk.
This ou can be a prince for all Auntie cares, and that still doesn’t mean you are not good enough for him.
So stop putting yourself down, you are better than that, you deserve the best and you need to love yourself more – and that’s the reason why Auntie’s going to tune you straight now, Fatal Lover Girl: you need some time on your own, without a berk, or a WhatsApp stukkie, to focus on yourself.
So basta with your ex, and basta with this sexy boentjie who sells life cover, you need to do you, and you can’t do that with all these ouens clouding your thoughts and their mammies phoning you and being judgerag.
It sounds to Auntie that, yes, because you look at yourself and define yourself as a big girl, you don’t skeem you deserve certain things, and that you have to settle for whatever comes your way.
That’s mos a k** gedagte.
You need to ask yourself why you are being so hard on yourself, then figure out a way to accept you for who you are, and love yourself. That way you won’t settle for second best.
So for now, focus on you, and you can’t do that with your ex and this new outjie hanging around.
And meisie, it’s been two years!
Don’t you skeem this outjie was maybe just using his good looks to get you to buy life cover from him?
Also Auntie is not a big fan of getting back with exes. There’s mos a reason why you left them in the first place.
So leave that guy in the past, and start looking towards the future.
A future where you love yourself first and all outjies comes second.