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Dear Auntie Pearl, I’ve been on a couple of dates with this guy, but now I don’t know what to do.
This outjie lives more than half an hour away from me, but he’s made some effort to get to me – it’s like two taxi drives for him, shame.
We both still live with our parents so he said he would rent us a hotel room for a special night.
We met at the hotel last week and he really made it nice, and he even paid for everything.
We had such nice sex and we got all romantic and had a bath en alles.
Then all of a sudden his phone rang and he said it was someone in his family saying his ma was in an accident.
He was so worried and left in a hurry.
It didn’t even cross my mind that he might be lying and he said he would message me later.
He phoned the next morning and apologised for everything, but I haven’t heard from him again.
What should I do now? It’s all so awkward, and I don’t know what’s happening with us now.
I thought it was the start of something nice, but maybe it was just a one-night stand for him?
From T-Man.
A My jinne T-Man, it sounds like you two boys were having a gay old time (pardon the pun) and then it all went a bit south because his mammie had an emergency.
It’s easy what you should do now – phone or text the man and ask him if his mammie is OK!
Anything could have happened and now you’re making it all about you.
Of course it’s awkward, you two were busy with pata-pata and the next moment his phone rings and there’s a family crisis.
Auntie can’t believe you haven’t contacted him yet. That’s mos the only way how you’re going to find out where you two stand!
Look, maybe his ma is in a critical condition and he’s worried about her and hasn’t had time to really think about you and your sexy evening together.
Or maybe that was his secret boyfriend that called that night, and he needed a quick excuse to get out of there and lied to you.
Or maybe he’s actually a mert and he had to go make a dagga drop to a client.
Auntie can go on guessing here until the cows come home, but the only way for you to know what’s actually going on with your mystery man is for you to ask him.
You young people should stop creating dramas when everything can be cleared up with one call and some honesty.
Forget about the “awkwardness” you imagine there is, call him and ask him how he is, how his ma is, and if you can see him again sometime soon.
Take your lead from how he answers you.
If he is vague and doesn’t want to make plans, then unfortunately for you, this guy is shady and you were just a stukkie on the side for one magical night.
But sitting there and wondering what is going on will drive you crazy – so take action!