In 2017 — the future we all dreamed of — I can’t believe I’m about to write about inter-racial relationships.
I’m doing this because I noticed comments about sporting super heroes Wayde van Niekerk and Siya Kolisi and the recent wedding of Micasa lead singer J’Something to his black wife Coco Godi.
Having been in a mixed marriage myself, I believe I am in a position to provide some perspective on an issue that shouldn’t actually be one any longer.
From comments and conversations over the years, I have gathered that it’s okay for a white man to marry a dark-skinned woman, but for some reason, some white people kry stuipe when a white woman falls for a dark-skinned man.
This is evident in the good wishes I have seen for J’Something, while there’s been scorn flung at Siya Kolisi and his white wife Rachel, who has been gracious beyond her 26 years.
She has been dealing with ongoing verbal attacks on her Facebook page from white men, who seem to forget that their forefathers after months at sea, couldn’t wait to get their grubby paws on the local girls and start creating Coloureds.
But that’s a conversation for another day.
Right now, I have nothing but admiration and respect for Rachel and Siya.
If rugby be a game of thrones, then she is the great Kolisi, mother of bygones.
And I believe racist whites should be forced to do DNA tests so they can learn exactly how much black they actually have flowing in their veins.
It will either set them straight, or drive them nuts; either one is a better outcome.
And then there’s the Coloureds, who appear to support Flats women taking white husbands, but a Coloured man, especially a successful one, mustn’t dare take a white wife.
CELEBRATED: J'Something and wife Coco Godi and Wayde van Niekerk and his fianceé Chesney Campbell
I saw several comments about Wayde van Niekerk’s recent engagement to his lovely girl Chesney Campbell. Most of the comments were from Coloured people approving his choice of a Coloured girl and not hooking up with a white woman now that he’s famous.
Sies, julle! So I assume if Wayde made the mistake of falling for the wrong colour woman, the two of them would also have been victims of bigotry the way the Kolisis are.
I often hear racists argue how their beliefs are either very intellectual or based on the Bible.
But it can’t be, because I can’t believe Jesus would want to associate with anyone who judges people, especially on something as mundane as skin tone.
And it can’t be intellectual either, because I’m Coloured and I don’t meet many white people who are smarter than me, simply because they are white.
I know that sounds very full of it, but I can only base my view on my own experiences.
Considering all we know about life and the world, still judging people based on skin colour is probably the most backward thing you can do.
And as for having an opinion on who people chose to marry, it seems to me that it’s OK to marry any kind of abusive, molesting, devil-worshipping monster, just as long as they’re the same colour as you.
Otherwise someone will see it fit to encroach on the sanctity of your bedroom. I think it quietly drives them nuts to think about Rachel willingly sleeping with Siya.
And when it comes to the kids; some Coloureds still have an obsession with hair.
They often advise courting couples to “ dink aan die kinnes se hare”.
Personally I find the children from inter-racial relationships to be particularly striking to look at.
Besides, straight hair is so over-rated and everywhere.
If you really want your kids to stand out in a crowd, then nothing beats a big, beautiful bush of curls or knotty dreads.