Q Hi Auntie, it’s Leanique here from the Plain.
I am 16 years old and I have a problem with my mom.
I’m actually a good girl who does well in school and I don’t catch on nonsense or mix with the wrong crowd.
The other day I was out with some friends and we hooked up with some other friends and went to another place that’s not my first friend’s house.
WhatsApped my mother about everything and kept her in the loop about where we are and what we are doing the whole time.
When I got home I was like five minutes late and she totally flipped out.
Why does she not trust me? My dad was cool about it.
A Jinne kind, a 16-year-old who has a problem with her mom… where has Auntie heard that before?
Oh, yes, from almost every single household with a teenager!
Jammer meisie, Auntie is not laughing at you or trying to be condescending, it’s just that your story is perfectly normal.
You sound like a girl with a good head on her shoulders, so let Auntie be straight: it is difficult for a mom to let go of her daughter.
The world is a wonderful place, but there are also a lot of bad things out there.
For the past 16 years, your mommy has been caring for you and protecting you.
She knows there is a time when you have to head out on your own, but that does not mean she doesn’t still want to care for you.
Look at it from her point of view.
From what you tell Auntie, going “with some other friends to some other place” sounds moerse dodgy!
At least you did not hide anything from your mom. And that’s going to be the best way forward.
Auntie is sure your mommy does trust you, she is just worried.
There are so many dangers out there, especially for a 16-year-old girl!
Talk to her, stay honest, reassure her that you are not heading down the wrong path, keep studying hard, etc.
They say actions speak louder than words, but if you can use both to impress your mother, it will be doubly powerful.
And don’t be late again… or at least give mamma a call when you see you are going to be in even a second after your curfew.