Q Dear Auntie Pearl. I am 27 years old and want to tell you about this perfect guy I met a few months ago.
He is kind, generous, considerate, passionate, thoughtful and attractive. As if that won’t make any girl go gaga, he is just like me – he is adventurous and likes the outdoors.
But, of course, Auntie guessed it… there’s a catch. He is moving far away. I’m not like talking Saldanha or so on the West Coast, but to flipping Limpopo.
Ja, it’s for work. He has a real job and makes good money. I know, I also can’t believe it.
Now the thing is Auntie, while I’m totally into this ou, I just don’t lus for a long-distance thing.
I mean I’m sad to lose him and he feels the same about me, maar dit maak mos nie sense om te commit to someone when we have no future plans to live in the same area.
I’m so frustrated by it all! What are we to do?
From Who Knows in Worcester.
A Meisie, are you versin? Sorry girl, maar Auntie gaan nie doekies omdraai nie.
Are you listening to yourself? You have found someone who smaaks you dik stukke, he has a kwaai job and actually seems to be the complete package… and you don’t want to try all you can to keep this man?
Hayibo! Djy maak sommer Auntie se bors warm. What is it with your generation that just wants everything to be easy and breezy all the time?
Something amazing is being served to you on a bleddie platter – all you have to do is grab it.
So you listen to Auntie very carefully now: pull yourself towards yourself and fight for this relationship. Put in a little effort! That’s now if he’s also willing to do this.
A relationship is a two-way street - not one-way!
Just try the long-distance thing, even if it is just for a couple of months. You never know how things are going to go until you give it a go.
If you find things are really falling apart, then let him go.
But don’t just give up because you are “not lus” for a bietjie sukkel.
Long distance can work, and maybe in the near future you’ll find a way to be together and live happily ever after.