Q Dear Auntie Pearl, how are you today? I want to tell you a bit about this ex of mine who is being a real pain in the gat.
We broke up more than two years ago, but he just can’t seem to stay out of my life.
Things are a bit complicated because we have a laaitie together.
Anyway, here’s the problem: My ex is always getting involved in my love life.
Like a while ago I was going out with this guy and when my ex found out, he got die moer in for me for some reason and told me I should not be chising guys but looking after our daughter.
Do I need to put my life on pause?
I think my ex is versin – he has dated other women and even though he pays papgeld, he does not often actually take care of our son. What must I do?
A Oh my word hartjie, who does this ex of yours think he is? He mos can’t tune you what to do, your relationship is lankal klaar.
Sadness, you are going to have to stand up for yourself and make it clear to this baby daddy that he must keep his nose out of your business.
Look, Auntie can understand if maybe your ex is concerned about his child.
I mean he obviously doesn’t want a slegte man to be in his kid’s life, but this doesn’t allow him to control you.
You are the one taking care of your child, so Auntie thinks it’s mainly up to you to decide what is best for your family. And that includes what people are in your lives.
Hartjie, you are going to have to give your ex a mondvol and let him know that he can’t tell you what to do, and he can’t force you to put your life on pause.
As long as you keep a straight head and always make sure you are doing what is best for your laaitie, you can go on living your life as you please.