Q DEAR Auntie Pearl, I’m 25 years old and my boyfriend is 33. I think he’s on drugs.
I cannot be sure about the drugs, but there are times when he seems distracted, laughs at weird things, and he doesn’t make sense.
Is it worth it to date an older guy? And what about the drugs?
From Irene, Eastridge.
A Kom Auntie maak wys and tell it to you straight – no, it’s not worth it to be bymekaar with a berk who’s on drugs!
You should be focussing on building a career and earning money for a house and car, not wasting your time on some good-for-nothing junkie.
As for it being “worth” dating a person older than, it really depends how well you get along, how much shared interests you have and how big the age gap is. Auntie is not a fan of ou mense dating people young enough to be their kids.
But let’s back up for a second.
Firstly, you need to make sure that your boyfriend is actually on drugs. His behaviour might just be a quirky personality.
You can’t go around suspecting him of something as serious as drug abuse if he is, in fact, a good, clean guy.
Tell him he’s been acting weird and it’s got you worried, and ask him straight out if he’s on drugs. And if you want to make really sure, insist on a drug test.
If he’s clean, he won’t mind. Tell him you need peace of mind as you don’t see a future with a drug addict.
If he is doing drugs, then meisie, get out of there as fast as you can!
Auntie has seen it hundreds of times, where good kids get dragged down by vuil, junkie boyfriends or girlfriends.
He will ruin your life, and steal the bright future ahead of you.
Unless, of course, you love him so much that you are ready to commit to the long and hard road to get him into rehab recovery, and make sure he stays off the junk for the rest of his life.
The Cape Town Drug Counselling Centre is a kwaai place to start to get help, contact them on 021 447 8026.