Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I have been dating a kwaai guy for the past couple of months, but he has never met my parents.
Now they want to meet him, but I am scared they are not going to like him. I am 19 and he is 27.
He has a great personality, and is kind and not a tikkop or anything, but the problem is that he has quite a few tattoos. Dis nie nommer tjappies nie, just some cool designs and pictures. My parents are a bietjie conservative, and I’m afraid they can’t see past his ink.
Should I be worried? Should I just introduce them? What if things get ugly?
From Nicole S
A Thank goodness you told Auntie that the tattoos are not a klomp gemors gang tjappies.
Sies, man, those ugly things sommer maak Auntie naar!
These days a bit of ink has mos become pretty common, but it’s still perceived as a vuil ding for the older generation.
Back in the days it was thought that only skollies get tattoos. It’s probably all the celebs getting their bodies marked that has made it more acceptable to you young people.
Jinne, just think of Rihanna, David Beckham, Drake, Pharrell, Angelina Jolie, Miley Cyrus, Justin Bieber, Lady Gaga… die lys gaan net aan.
Think of it this way, if you were dating Pharrell, would you hide it from your parents just because he has a tattoo? Of course not!
Just tell your parents that you have met a nice guy who treats you right, and if they have a problem with his ink they must get over it.
If the relationship lasts, you have all the time in the world to sort out their preconceived notions.
If it doesn’t work out, well my darling, maak jou maar reg vir jou mammie se “I told you so”. But that’s OK, you are mos a big girl and can take it!