Q Dear Auntie Pearl, my one friend is so jealous of me.
I work hard and I like to spoil myself with new things, but she makes me feel so guilty for buying nice things.
She’s always saying something nasty when she sees I’m wearing a new top or earrings or whatever.
She’s forever moaning about how [email protected] her life is and how I am so lucky and so on, but it’s mos not my fault.
From Bling Queen.
A No, Bling Queen, it’s not your fault, and all you can do is be yourself and live your best life.
Tell her, in a nice way, that you know you have nice things but that you work very hard for them.
Your friend is obviously a bietjie jealous of you and feels she’s lacking.
A friend should be happy for you, that you are doing good and working hard and reaping the benefits of this.
We all go through good times and bad times, ups and downs, and hopefully she will have an up soon.
Don’t allow her to drag you down, but also try to be sensitive and ask her if there is anything you can help her with.
What if you help her jazz up her CV to get a kwaai job?
Cheer her up and dream big with her, share your success stories so it inspires her.
We are all in charge of our own destinies, and moaning isn’t going to get her anywhere.
If she keeps on with her [email protected] maniere, it may be time to find new friends.