Q
Dear Auntie, I’m sending you this email because I have nowhere else to turn for advice.
My problem is that my mother is such a pain.
You see, I am 15 years old and I am smaaking this guy who is 21.
This ou is lit AF, and I sometimes can’t even believe he is interested in me.
My mom says I must stay away from him, and that he is disgusting for chising a girl my age.
But what does she know? She’s old and divorced and I don’t think she ever dated a guy as kwaai as my boo.
This also isn’t “puppy love”. How should I handle my mother?
From Gucci Girl.
A
Now listen closely child, Auntie knows you probably don’t want to hear it, but your mommy is right.
Don’t roll your eyes, you are not as kwaai as you think you are even if you think you are all Gucci.
Meisie, the fact that you are only 15 means that if this 21-year-old man tries anything sexual with you, it is illegal!
You are a child and he’s an adult!
It means your parents can make a case of statutory rape against him and he will be locked up.
Sure this outjie is sexy and kwaai and makes your knees all wobbly, but despite what you think, this is indeed puppy love.
Just give it some time.
Rather focus on your school work and get to know boys closer to your own age.
Auntie knows teens get all hot and bothered when it comes to their feelings, and it’s good to explore these emotions, but don’t be a fool.
Do you know that old saying “vroeg ryp, vroeg vrot”?
There’s a lot of truth in it.
You mos want to grow up to be a smart, successful, happy woman, not some loslappie who spent her time chising boys way too old for her rather than doing well in school.
So how should you ‘handle’ your mother? Listen to her!
And watch jouself, don’t be a bitter brat and say such nasty things about your mom and the divorce.
It sounds like she had to raise you all alone. She deserves a medal, not insults.