Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I have a problem with this meisie that I am into.
We met on an app and have been chatting on WeChat for weeks now.
Auntie mos knows that WeChat is all over the world.
Now this girl is in China and she is the love of my life.
We chat for hours and it’s always duidelik and I know we must be together.
I am 30 years old and she’s a bit younger.
She says she is planning to visit me soon, but asked that I send her money to help pay for her ticket.
Auntie, I don’t have a job at the moment because you know how swak the virus has made it for all of us.
I’m desperate and now even thinking of stealing or selling some drugs (just dagga, so it’s OK) so I can get some money.
But I don’t know if I can do it. Just thinking about being a skollie maak my naar.
A Ooh jinne, Auntie smells a rat. And not sommer any rat – a big, fat, stinky rot.
And that rat is this “girl” who has gnawed her way into your brain, heart, broek or whatever.
Listen JJ, this might be tough to hear, but Auntie is pretty sure you are being scammed.
I mean really, how many times have we not seen this?
Someone in some “far off country” hooking up with a nice guy like you online.
At first it’s all lekker chatting and lovey dovey but the next moment staan sy met ‘n bak hand.
Just think about it – can this girl (if it’s really a girl) in this time of a global pandemic, think she can just hop on a plane and go on a love cruise from China to South Africa?
Auntie doesn’t think so!
If you want Auntie’s honest opinion, it’s that if you give this person money, you will never see it again. And you’ll never see or hear from her again.
Or they will sommer start needing more money for other things.
Now you seem like a good guy JJ, because at least you are hesitant about turning to crime.
But no sies man, you mos know that crime is not the answer.
Auntie can hear you have a good heart, so listen to it and don’t do the wrong thing and ruin your life for anyone, especially someone who you haven’t even seen in real life.
Now JJ, if you think Auntie is wrong about this woman scamming you, then at least take things slow, and don’t part with your cash, my dear.
You should tell this person you are platsak and can’t send money.
Hell, even if you do manage to scrape together some kroon (legally, of course), Auntie would advise you to say you don’t have the funds. Just to see how she reacts.
Because if she hears you’re not a blesser and suddenly stops chatting, you know it was all one big lie.
Or if she continues to push you to make a plan to get money, that’s also a red flag.
A good relationship is mos built on trust and love.
It shouldn’t be about how much money is in your bank account.
Be careful out there JJ. The online world can be very skelm.