Q
Dear Pearl, why does the good come with the bad?
Both my girlfriend and I have been blessed to get jobs this year.
I want to ask her to marry me, but I have a problem: I’m afraid our work will get in the way of our relationship.
This is because we have jobs that could take us apart for long periods.
Not like years, but maybe a couple of weeks here and there.
Should I take the plunge and put a ring on it and hope if any problems come up from these stints apart we can handle them?
From Han Solo
A
It’s so wonderful to hear that you both have jobs.
And the added good news that you want to commit to a life together also warms Auntie’s heart.
Jinne, work and ordentlike couples are as scarce as hoendertanne these days.
Now listen, Han (Auntie is also a Star Wars fan), if you are with the right person, a few weeks apart here and there should not be a problem.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s going to be tough, especially if you are newly-wed!
But many people are doing it. All you need is love, trust and commitment.
The best advice Auntie can give you is that you need to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.
The world is very small these days and with email, WhatsApp and face calling, you can be close all the time, no matter the distance.
It’s all going to come down to whether you are sure that this is the only girl you want to spend the rest of your life with.
If your heart is telling you go for it, then stop wasting time and ask her to marry you.
A strong couple can handle anything.