Q Dear Pearl, what has the internet done to us?
My wife is threatening to leave me because she met a guy online!
We have been married for almost 10 years, and apparently, this whole cyber relationship started over a year ago already.
She’s never actually met this other man in person, all they do is chat and have online sex.
He does not even stay in South Africa, but she says our marriage is over and that she is going to gooi to be with this guy.
She even told me her whole plan: She is going to live with him for a year while she divorces me, and then they are coming back here together.
I feel sick! I still love her, but I just don’t know what to do!
A Ai tog, the internet is a great thing for humanity, but it also has a dark side and has ruined so many lives.
Auntie feels for you, but Auntie also thinks that you should not just take this lying down, you should fight for your marriage.
Your wife has not left yet and is only threatening to leave, which seems like she is hesitating.
Nobody can just pack up a decade of marriage and go off to be with a stranger.
Auntie is sure she’s just lekker deurmekaar and is looking at this other guy through rosy glasses.
Have you looked at the reason for the troubles in your marriage?
Might there be something you did or didn’t do, that is driving her away?
Find out what went wrong, and fix it.
You cannot let the woman you love just delete you from her life.
Get her out of the cyber confusion and back to reality.
This mystery man she has been chasing sounds like bad news.
He could be dangerous.
She might end up in a lot of trouble, he might be using her to get into our country or try to steal her money.
Auntie suggests you and your wife make a fresh start.
Tell her you want to save your marriage, and that you two must work together to make it happen.
To find out what went wrong, and find a solution.