Q Hi there Auntie Pearl, my boyfriend and I broke up over Christmas-time, but I still think about him a lot.
Don’t think it’s because I miss him, it’s because I am die moer in with him.
You see, we had been together for a year-and-a-half, but middle last year I had to move for work so we were in a long-distance relationship. But it wasn’t even far, only about two hours’ drive.
We used to see each other over the weekend.
Nou hier is die ding: he dumped me over WhatsApp!
There’s mos no excuse not to do it face to face, we are mos not in different countries!
We were nogal serious, and I am angry at the way things ended.
There’s so much I want to say to him, but the time has passed and I don’t know what to do with myself any longer.
From Angry Annie.
A Meisie, let Auntie sommer come right out and say it: you dodged a bullet!
If this guy thinks it’s okay to dump you from a long distance just because that was how the relationship has been for a few months, he is not much of a man to begin with.
Nee wat, he sounds like an immature, spineless loser.
Let’s not get hung up on him, and rather deal with your heartsore.
It’s been almost five months since the break-up, so Auntie can understand that you still have feelings, especially because of the way things ended.
But at some stage, one does get gatvol of feeling the same things over something that’s supposed to be in the past.
Your friends and family are probably also getting tired of your moaning.
So, how do you get over the breakup blues?
Firstly, remember that time is a healer and you will eventually get over him.
A couple of months are not enough to move on from a serious relationship.
Secondly, when you start getting kwaad at your ex, remind yourself that he is a coward and that you are better off without him.
Auntie hopes you have deleted his number from your phone.
Get rid of all the things that remind you of him.
All those little gifts and messages, gooi dit uit!
And if he tries to contact you, don’t answer.
He had his chance and he showed his true colours. It’s over.
Spend time with friends and family, keep yourself busy, and explore new interests.
This might just sound like a distraction, but eventually you’ll find yourself enjoying company and new activities more and more without thinking about your ex.
The important thing is not to sit around alone in your room, sulking about the breakup.
So go watch a movie, go to the beach or for a hike in nature, invite some friends over and make dinner.
Get out of your own head, girl!
You will find love again… healthier and happier love.