Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago.
I actually moved to a [email protected] place to be with him, and we lived together for almost a year.
Then he dumped me out of the blue. And I have since moved back to the Cape.
I really liked him, and the break-up was tough on me.
Now he called and said he will be in the Cape for business and asked if I want to get dinner.
Should I even bother to meet up with him?
I’ve been obsessing about this, even going on a quick diet and jogging so I can look good.
I want to show him what he lost, even though I’m pretty sure he’s not suddenly going to be all like “sorry, I was wrong” or any of that.
Do I play it cool? Should I just be myself? Should I try to make him jealous?
I think my kop is ’n bietjie deurmekaar.
A Luister, girl, jy vra vir Auntie whether you should bother to go meet him, but already you are thinking about what to wear and how to act.
We could probably take you up the kabelkarretjie and leave you on the mountain, but you’d run down and be at that restaurant to meet with him.
It’s obvious that you want to see this ex of yours.
Auntie suggests you take a chill pill, and forget about all the plans you are cooking up in your head to make him jealous.
Go, and just be yourself.
Don’t make an effort to appear to be something you are not.
He hurt you badly, so why do you want to go down that road again?
You said it yourself, he is not here to apologise.
It could be that he just wants to do the decent thing, meet and greet and get some closure.
But it sounds to Auntie like this ou is trying his luck to get a quick and easy lay with his stukkie from the past.
So, go to the restaurant, be lekker, enjoy the kos and let him pay, then get out of there… alone.
Be strong, and don’t fall for his charms again, and definitely don’t hook up with this ou!
If he really wants to make amends and get back together, it’s going to take more than a bord kos and dessert to win you back.