Q Dear Auntie Pearl, have you ever dealt with people who are dik into games? And I’m not talking sports like soccer here, Auntie, I’m talking about that PlayStation move.
Because you check, my berk smaaks playing games like Fortnite en wie weet wat alles.
It’s not like he dissed me to sit in front of the screen, he is a kwaai boyfriend who makes time for me, but he does spend quite a bit of time each week on the console.
The problem is that if he loses a game, he sommer gets bedonnerd. And it can last for days.
There are usually like two to three days a month where he’s in a foul mood because of losing.
Now Auntie, I don’t mind him gaming and I think it’s a cool hobby, but I just don’t get why it affects him so much if he loses. I mean, wat maak dit nou saak, dis mos net ‘n game?
The real issue for me is that I don’t know what to do when he is in such a mood. How can I help him?
From Gamer’s Girl
A Ja girl, Auntie knows about this gaming thing. Not that Auntie ever got so hooked on the PlayStation or Xbox, but you know there are a couple of kwaai cellphone games that is nogal lekker to jol.
Regarding your berk, there’s no real reason for you to actually have to help him when he is down in the dumps. That’s quite normal.
You have to realise that even though he is playing games online, it does not make the loss any different than say for instance a soccer match.
A person mos doesn’t smaak losing at anything.
We all want our loved ones to be happy all the time – because we care about them and it makes them much more fun to be around, but people are allowed to have bad moods.
And it sounds to Auntie like this is not too big a deal, because it’s not like he gets depressed or mopes around for weeks on end. He gets over it!
If he’s a great boyfriend overall and not mistreating you when things go wrong, it’s okay.
Don’t try to force him out of his muf moods. Just make sure he knows that you are there if he wants you. But maybe when he’s bedonnerd he just needs to be alone, so go hang out with friends or do something you enjoy, and allow him to sulk over his game in peace.
Yoh girl, just be happy that he doesn’t have a bunch of “real” problems.