Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I really don’t know what to do because I just found out my berk has been lying to me.
It’s like he’s been living two lives − he has two Facebook pages and on the one, it says he’s single.
I obviously asked him about it and he told me he ‘almost’ never uses that one.
He also says he doesn’t like to text me because it takes up too much of his time, but then he always has his phone on him, even when he goes to the toilet.
I’m 24 years old and he’s 38.
We’ve been together now for almost four months and it’s been amazing. He has a son who is seven years old from an ex.
I’ve met some of his family and his son, but he told me he hasn’t told his son he has a girlfriend.
I don’t know what to think and my friends are saying I should leave him because he’s a player.
He does treat me nice, though, and has a good job, so it’s nice to hang out with him.
What should I do, Auntie?
From Suspicious Girl.
A Listen up, meisie, every story has two sides and what Auntie is hearing now is your side. You’re dating a man much older than you, who is dealing with a whole lot of grown-up issues, one being his young son.
Sorry to say, girl, but it sounds like you are just after a nice time − “he treats me nice and has a good job”.
On the other hand, it is highly suspicious that he always has his phone on him and has two Facebook pages.
Have you two discussed this relationship − is it serious or is it just a nice time?
Tune him he’s being secretive about his phone and making you doubt him.
And, yes, he’s not honest about you with his family, but maybe it’s more complicated than that, what with an ex and a son in the picture.
In Auntie’s opinion, any good parent won’t let you meet their child unless it’s serious.
It’s just not right parading elke stukkie you vry in front of an impressionable young child whose parents aren’t together anymore.
It can confuse the child and create feelings of insecurity, so if that’s the reason why his son doesn't’ know you’re his girlfriend, then good on him.
If you are looking for a more serious relationship, you should tell your berk this, and also about your expectations to properly be introduced to his son and family.