Q
Hello Pearl, I need some wisdom about a situation with my 8-year-old daughter.
My laaitie has a friend and the mother is trying to make them into best friends.
It’s getting so versin that this woman is even buying matching T-shirts for them.
My hubby and I don’t smaak the situation, because we want our daughter to be friends with everyone.
Of course, she is free to have a best friend if she wants, but it’s not this girl.
This friend’s mother is now WhatsApping me to ask for my daughter’s shirt and dress size because she wants a cousin to specially make clothes with matching logos and things.
How do I discourage this?
I don’t want to tell her to just voetsek and cause problems between the girls.
The mom and I are not friends, but we get along okay.
From Concerned
A
Yoh, sounds like this mal mommy seriously wants her daughter to have a bestie, and she is doing alles wat sy kan to strengthen the relationship between the girls.
But you know what, Auntie thinks this may have more to do with the mom than with her daughter.
Auntie thinks this woman might be acting this way because she never had a BFF when she was a child, and she does not want her daughter to go through the same thing.
Ag shame. Auntie is a little sad for her.
However, pushing children together instead of letting friendship develop naturally, will not work.
So, how do you handle the situation?
Auntie suggests you have a talk with this mom, face- to-face, not on WhatsApp.
Don’t be rude, just explain to her that you don’t want to force a friendship on your daughter.
Let her know that while you appreciate her generosity, you prefer that the girls develop their relationship on their own.
Maklik, nuh!