Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, I have a girlfriend for eight months or so now.
I am 22 and she is 21 years old.
We met at a club and for the first few weeks, we used to go out and do fun things and party and dinge were duidelik.
Now, all this girl wants to do is bok at home and watch TV.
Yoh, I’m bored and want to go jol.
How can I get her back to her old self? Or should I find a better girl to party with me?
From Johnson.
A
Jinne Johnson, give a girl a break, man. I must say, you’re sounding moerse judgerag, and also “find a better girl to party with me” − what would she say if she heard you talking like that. Sies, man!
On the other hand, Johnson, it does sound like you thought you scored the girl of your dreams, and now she’s not what you were looking for.
Listen up, skattebol, people often pretend to be something they are not just to get someone interested in them. You understand what Auntie’s saying?
Maybe she pretended to be a party girl who smaaks staying at the club until the sun comes up and the birds start to sing; when, in fact, she’s a real homebody who prefers to stay on the couch watching movies and stuffing her face.
Now Johnson, sweetheart, have you asked your girl if something is wrong? Maybe something’s bothering her, maybe there’s a reason she doesn’t want to go out.
Don’t just assume she’s boring and unadventurous. Talk to her, boeta.
You are at an age where you know how to rek your bek, especially when it comes to romantic dinge and things of the heart.
If you have something on your mind, or skeem you want things to change, then talk to her. If that’s not for you, then don’t have a girlfriend.
If she’s not the girl you thought you fell in love with, then rather break up with her. Because there’s really no point in trying to force a relationship if the one person wants to be out and about the whole time, while the other one wants to stay at home.
And if you two can’t work something out and be considerate towards each other – like maybe one weekend you two go have a jol out in town or go for a hike, and the next you duifies stay in and cuddle while watching a series or movies.
Relationships are all about compromise. So auntie sê weer– if that’s not for you, then don’t have a girlfriend.
Whatever you do, just don’t be that demanding ou who wants his girlfriend to do as he says. And by the way Johnson, it sounds like you’ve already made up your mind and that you want to call it quits and find a more adventurous, free-spirited, party girl girlfriend.
If that is in fact the case, please do it sooner rather than later, hartjie. Don’t string this poor girl along and make her think things are getting serious.