Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, I think my daughter is pregnant! She is not even 21 years old yet, what will I do if this is true?
I’m a nervous wreck. My birthday is coming up, and it’s a big one as I am turning 50.
I don’t want the party to be ruined by her dropping a bomb about being knocked up.
She’s not married or even in a proper relationship.
She has not said anything about being met die lyf, but something just doesn’t look right to me.
Please advise me on what I should do?
From Melvina
A
Good grief mommy Melvina, what are you more worried about: your possibly pregnant daughter, or your birthday party?
Auntie don’t want to have any misunderstandings, but I’m hoping to heaven it’s the first one.
Shame, any mother would be stressed, disappointed and worried if their daughter was throwing her life away by being so dom as to get knocked up by accident.
Ken die kinders nie van protection nie?
But this is a tough situation. Just because something doesn’t look right to you, does not mean that she is preggies.
On the other hand, a mother mos knows.
So first things first, gaan praat met jou kind!
Find out the facts. You both are adults, so you should be able to talk to each other like adults and discuss dinge.
If she’s not pregnant, then you mos have nothing to paap about.
She might be a little upset that you would suspect her of being pregnant, though; but it’s better to know these things than to guess.
Either way, she should understand that you are her mother and is worried about her.
She should appreciate her mammie’s concern, wisdom and love.
And if she is pregnant, then just remember that even though you might be disappointed and scared for her, the situation is what it is.
Getting opgewerk a nd angry at her is not going to solve anything.
Don’t be selfish and only think of your birthday. Parties come and go, but your daughter’s life, and now your grandchild, is more important.
You should know this as a mother.
If she is in trouble, you will have to sit her down and have an honest and serious conversation about her and the baby’s future.
Be patient, calm, loving, and just be there for her.