Q
Dear Pearl, I am still hung up on the girl I dated almost five years ago.
I made a big gemors of the situation, because back then I liked to suip and one night I got violent and she dumped me.
I understand why she left me, but I just can’t stop thinking of her and I want to be
with her again.
Auntie, I’ve changed. I don’t drink anymore.
I’ve begged her for a second chance, but she just tunes me to voetsek.
Please help.
From Not Over Her
A
Yes, my friend, that is how life works.
We make choices and then we have to live with those choices.
Unfortunately for you, this girl has also made a choice − and her choice was to leave you.
She has made it clear as daylight that she is klaar met jou.
So, brother, it’s time to grow up and move on.
Auntie is sorry to hear that you have lost your lover, and now you have to pay the price of your suipery.
Auntie can understand why your ex dumped you, though.
Abuse is vieslik, in any shape and form, and while the dop might have played a role in the situation, it’s definitely no excuse.
At the end of the day, you are the one who got drunk and violent, and you need to pay for that.
Just be glad she didn’t have you thrown in the tjoekie.
Auntie is very glad to hear that you have stopped drinking and got your act straight.
Ai tog, when will our communities be free of the evil at the bottom of the bottle?
So many families are torn apart due to drinking, so many relationships ruined, so many people hurt or even killed… it makes Auntie’s heart bleed.
Auntie’s only advice to you now is to move on − bou ’n brug en get over it.
There’s no use hanging on to a relationship that’s clearly over.
Rather focus your energy on finding someone new.