Q Hi there Auntie, I want to know what you think about this thing with this guy I’m bymekaar with. So we’ve been dating for a couple of months, but he still hasn’t bothered to make New Year’s plans with me.
We’re almost at the end of the year and a girl mos has to start preparing for that party.
I have not spoken to him about this, since I seem to be the one who always initiates everything. I am waiting for him to say something to me, but I fear that he doesn’t even care.
Should I dump him if he leaves me home alone on New Years?
From New Year Meisie.
A Good grief, meisie, you sound dik passive-aggressive. Come now, if you want to know if the guy is interested in hanging out, just ask him already.
Because let Auntie tell you something: most guys who have some sort of relationship are not really thinking about whether they’re going to find someone to jol with on New Year’s, so they don’t put much thought into the occasion.
So maybe your berk just hasn’t gotten around to thinking about the end of the year, or he’s simply assuming you two are going to do something together.
You tell Auntie you always initiate things, so this guy probably is lamming it uit and waiting for you to organise something.
Let Auntie ask you a few questions: Are you looking for a reason to ditch this guy, and now you are using New Years as an excuse? Have you thought about getting out on other occasions? Have you been paaping about him wanting to dump you?
Or maybe he’s just the kind of guy who never plans anything and for just once, you’d like him to get off his gat and plan a nice night out for you two.
If any of the above is true, you’re still handling it swak… setting up this “trap” for him and watching and waiting for him to walk right into it.
Meisie, to get to the bottom of this, just tell him what you’re thinking and feeling.
You’ll get your answer a lot faster, and won’t run the risk of having nothing to do for New Year. Tune him straight, get clarity, and plan accordingly.