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Dear Auntie Pearl, I am 20 years old and I am dating a very lekker guy.
We get along super well and have the best time together.
There’s just one problem, but maybe I am just being crazy.
You see, Auntie, I can’t stand the music he listens to. I just don’t smaak his smaak!
I like listening to funky pop tunes that gets me in a good mood.
Auntie seker knows about singers like Miley Cyrus, maybe you even heard her songs like Party in the USA and Malibu.
I also like some of the older Beyoncé nommers like Girls Run the World and Formation.
But my berk just listens so rubbish like Kanye and Drake and I can’t stand it.
I don’t even want to call it music, it’s just ouens talking nonsense, and the beats are not even funky.
I really like my boyfriend, but I don’t know if I can stay with him if he is going to blast music that I hate all the time when we are together.
Am I just being silly? What must I do?
From Beatrice.
A
Hi Beatrice, of course Auntie has heard of Miley and Bey!
Ek is dalk oud, maar ek is nie koud nie!
That said, pop music is not Auntie’s first choice when it comes to shuffling my iPod.
You know mos that everyone has their own taste in music.
That’s what makes the world such a wonderful place.
Can you imagine how bot it would have been if we all smaaked the same things?
Everyone eating the same food, driving the same car, wearing the same clothes… ag nee wat, Auntie doesn’t want to live in a world like that!
As for your problem with your berk’s taste in music, you are just going to have to respect it. You can’t go around and tune him that if he doesn’t stop listening to Drake and Kanye, then you are going to tune him out.
Do you know how he feels about your music taste?
Does he complain to you about listening to Miley?
Because Auntie can tell you that not everyone likes that kind of music.
I like to gooi ’n bietjie Destiny’s Child every now and then, but it’s not Auntie’s first choice.
If his music really gets so much on your nerves, the easiest way to deal with the situation is to talk openly about it to him.
Don’t be onbeskof and slam his music taste.
Just tell him you actually don’t smaak it, and ask him if he can turn it down when you are at his place.
Or even better, why not try and find some artists that you both like?
Then when you are alone, you can each listen to what you like, and when you are together you can put on your “couple’s playlist”.
Your other option is to take turns with music – you get to play three songs, then he gets to play three songs. That’s fair, right!
Don’t be too rigid in your music tastes, Beatrice, you never know… maybe one of these days you will also become a Yeezy fan!