Help, my wife is sleeping with my best friend!

Q

Dear Auntie Pearl, I think my marriage is on the rocks. I have big problems because my wife is sleeping with my best friend.

I know my friend is having a rough time at home, and that he is not happy with his wife. Should I cause trouble and blow this whole thing open? 

I don’t think my wife knows that I know that she is cheating, but I once saw them in the act.

It really hurts, because my friend has bragged to me that he has a “stukkie on the side”, but I obviously did not say that I know who it is. To expose them will be a  groot gedoente.

Should I confront him, or my wife? Maybe I should get a divorce. Please help.

From Tyrone B

A

Nee jirre Tyrone, why are you worried about this being a “groot gedoente”, it already is a moerse gemors!

This is not the way a marriage or a friendship should be. Hayibo, you need to straighten this out.

Are you a banggat that you have not taken on these two jollers? Come now, man, grow a pair and take control.

You cannot spend your time in a marriage where your wife is jumping in bed with someone else. 

As if this is not a big enough betrayal, it’s even worse that she is doing it with your best friend.

About that, Auntie can sommer tell you now that this other guy is definitely not your friend, because friends don’t do that to each other.

Now Tyrone, even though Auntie wants to tell you to get a divorce and skop that geitjie of a wife out of the house, maybe we must take a breath and take this one step at a time.

The first thing you must do is to tune your wife that you know about her los maniere, and that you want an explanation. 

At least hear her out. Auntie knows you want to, otherwise you would have kicked her out the moment you found out about the affair.

We all make mistakes in life, and though Auntie is not one to forgive a joller, maybe you will find it in your heart to try and make the marriage work after this infidelity.

If she tunes you flou verskonings or doesn’t beg forgiveness, you have to get rid of her. You mos don’t need such a sleg vrou in your life.

You also have to have words with your friend. He has some serious explaining to do. 

And since you two are not a couple, Auntie suggest you cut him out of your life. 

He is definitely not a friend.