Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, I’m 43 years old and I used to have a lekker life. I loved to go out and have a jol, but recently I have become so boring.
Let me explain, my hubby left me 10 years ago, and I have been single since then. Admittedly, I have had a stukkie every now and then, but the last was three years ago. These days I have become so bot, I have no social life, and all I do is work and then go home and watch TV.
How do I ruk myself reg and get out of this rut?
My friends say I am a kwaai woman and a real catch, but I just can’t seem to find another man to share my life with. Can I enjoy life again?
From Coleen
A
Haai shame, Coleen, of course you can shake things up and start living life again! Auntie has seen women much older than you change their lives for the better. Age ain’t nothing but a number, soos hulle sê.
But let’s face it, honey, everyone starts feeling their age once you klap the half-century mark. When we reflect on our life, on what we have achieved or not, and when your kids need you less, a person can feel a bit redundant and afgeleef.
You just have to look past these donker gedagtes, see the light on the other side and get yourself back on a path of happiness.
As a start, remember that you at least have a job, so even though your life is boring at the moment, you have the financial freedom to change that.
Even better, you have friends who care for you.
What is really keeping you down is a loss in self-esteem.
Girl, remember you are a strong, powerful woman! Daai party girl that you used to be is still in there.
However, that doesn’t mean you have to go out at your age and dance on tables and jol with elke guy that comes sniffing around.
As we get older our focus in life changes, and that includes what gives us pleasure.
You have to remember that you are a social creature, but instead of going to the disco, maybe choose a less woelige plek to enjoy yourself.
Only you can get yourself out of this rut, and for that you need to take action.
It might not be lekker at first, and you might not feel so inspired yet, but believe Auntie, once you take that first step, it will be easier to take the next one.
Don’t be afraid to tell your friends and family how you’re feeling, and get their support and input to get you back on the map.
Press that reset button, unearth that exciting person inside and set her free!