Q Hello Auntie, here’s the deal: I started dating this girl “Janet” about three months ago.
We met through a dating app and things were kwaai on our first date.
I have to drive around a lot for work, so I don’t see Janet much, mainly over the weekends. The problem started last month when a new girl, “Clarice”, joined my work project.
Yoh, Auntie, we connected sommer right away and there was warme chemistry.
I tried to fight my urges, I mean we work together and I am bymekaar with Janet, but recently we had an after-work drink at a bar and I ended up kissing Clarice.
From there, the spark of passion turned into a roaring veldbrand.
We’ve been getting physical a lot. I have also sometimes been driving with Clarice, and it feels like even these work trips are dates.
I thought Clarice knew about Janet, because everyone at work knew. But she didn’t know and she found out, and now she is upset and wants me to dump Janet.
So Auntie, I have to ask: am I a vark?
I have actually not seen Janet since I got down and dirty with Clarice. That said, I have been keeping in touch on WhatsApp and email.
What should I do now? My plan is to break it off with Janet by telling her there is some other reason, and then I can stay with Clarice.
How does this sound? From PP.
A Ag come now, this is mos a no-brainer. You don’t need to holhang, make your move.
There is clearly something between you and Clarice, and you actually get to see her.
Meanwhile, you have only been with Janet for a couple of months, and just seeing her over weekends.
Here’s the deal: you HAVE to break up with Janet, and soon!
But Auntie doesn’t want you to make up liegstories, just be honest with her and tell her you met someone else.
As for the question whether you are a scumbag or not… that depends.
Did you ever tell Janet that you are exclusive? If you did, then yes my boy, you are a cheater and kind of a vark.
Auntie must just say that I have never been a fan of someone dating two people at the same time, whether there’s been an agreement or not.
The bottom line is that as long as you are open and honest in a relationship, no matter how new it is, the better for everyone.
And it will help you not to be a cheating piece of rubbish.