Q Hi Auntie Pearl, I’m four months met die lyf and I dumped my berk a week ago. He is the baby daddy and we were together for over a year.
He already has a son with some other stukkie he was banging before me. Their relationship was just physical.
When we were bymekaar, I got used to him having a son and things were kwaai.
When he heard I was pregnant, he was fine with it because he said it is “with someone he loves”.
Auntie, I don’t want to get into why we broke up, it’s a long story and I think it was the right thing to do.
Anyway, he’s been begging me to talk so finally I gave in. He told me he wants us to be together again because of the baby.
I was actually considering it, until he dropped a bomb: he told me his ex, who he already has a kid with, might be pregnant from him again.
He says he doesn’t know how it happened because it was on a night when he was gesuip and can’t remember anything.
This apparently happened during a time when we were broken up.
He keeps telling me he wants us to be bymekaar for the baby, and that he doesn’t want his ex to have another laaitie with him.
That other woman is nogal milly. He says she trapped him with the first baby, and that he wants nothing to do with her. Maybe she is lying now?
I don’t know what to do. Please give some advice, Auntie.
From Pregnant and Confused.
A Yoh meisie! Reading your email makes Auntie feel like she is in some old-school soapie: drama upon drama upon drama.
So let’s just dive right in: There’s a lot of talk here about doing things “for the baby”, but if you want Auntie’s honest opinion, it is that if you really want to do what is best for your laaitie, go talk to a lawyer and line up some child support already.
If that guy was man enough to make a baby, he has to man up and pay papgeld.
Doing what is best for your child is the most important thing here, so Auntie skeem: forget about that sleg ding.
Auntie is sure you have your reasons for breaking up with him. Trust your gut on this one, meisie.
This man is not going to be the partner or parent you need.
Auntie sommer gets die moer in just thinking about his lame excuse that he “doesn’t remember how it happened” when he knocked up his ex.
No man! He was dronk and jas and he pomped her, that’s it, plain and simple.
If he was so serious about being with you, then no matter how wasted he was, he should not have gone sticking his ding in another girl.
In fact, he should not be jumping in bed with anyone if he is so dom not to use protection.
So meisiekind, make sure you get child support, and don’t let this ou talk you back into a relationship.
He can be part of your laaitie’s life in the future, but you should move on with your life.