Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I am looking for your opinion because you are wys and not someone from my family or friends.
My boyfriend and I want to settle down and start a family, but everyone is tuning us it’s too soon. But we just think what do they know?!
I’m 19 and my berk is 21 and he has a good job. I met him at a party and I am head over heels in love with him, and he feels the same about me.
We have been bymekaar for a few weeks but have known each other for more than a month. I’m moving into his flat next week.
We texted the other day about having a baby, it’s what we both want.
I just need an opinion from someone who doesn’t know me. Am I moving too fast?
A Hokaai Amanda, you’d better hit the brakes, meisie, of course Auntie thinks you are moving too fast!
And when Auntie tunes you that you are moving too fast, it’s about alles that you are telling me. Thinking of moving in together? You are moving too fast!
Thinking of having a baby already? You are moving so bleddie fast you should be getting a fine!
Girl, in what universe did you think Auntie would tell you this is a good idea?
No man, ‘n mens kan mos nie sulke big decisions wil maak after knowing each other for a month.
Listen Amanda, and listen properly: Stop it with all this talk about moving in together and starting a family. You sound cray-cray!
Your friends and family are 100% correct.
These are the people who love you and care for you, why are you so hardkoppig that you don’t want to hear what they are saying?
Now you come and ask for a second opinion from someone who doesn’t know you… it sounds to Auntie like you are just grasping for straws, because you could not find a single person in your life to give you the thumbs up.
Girl, you are young and have your whole life ahead of you, don’t go rushing into something that can cause enormous issues further down the line.
Take it slow. This relationship is still very new and you still have a lot to learn about each other.
Dis mos lekker om net te date ook. Enjoy this time of being young and newly in love, but do it safely and responsibly.
Auntie repeats: don’t move in with this guy, and definitely don’t have his baby!
And if any of Amanda’s family or friends are reading this and you see that she is ignoring all the good advice from left, right and centre, get in touch with Auntie so I can give her another bek vol!