Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, I need some advice from a woman.
I am a 21-year-old man and I am at university. I dated a girl from school for a long time, but a year ago she broke it off. I really thought she was the one, so it was a k*k time for me.
But now I have met a new girl who is 18 years old and in her last year of school. We chat every day and I am head over heels in love with her.
She is so kwaai I can’t believe it! She also smaaks me and tells me I am her first true love. This new relationship really helped me get over my break-up blues.
Here comes the moeilikheid… as we have been revealing more and more to each other, she told me last week she has something serious to talk about.
Auntie, then she dropped the bomb that she is actually only 15 years old and still has three years of school left! I don’t know what to do.
Before this I told her I love her no matter what, and now I find out she is still a child.
She says that it might be a big deal now, but that a year from now our age difference won’t matter. Please help me! I don’t want to lose her, but I don’t think I should date a 15-year-old?
From Dennis
A
Good grief, Dennis! Auntie can only imagine the shock you got when she tuned you the truth.
Thank goodness you came to Auntie for advice. Julle mans wil mos nie eens directions vra nie, never mind relationship advice.
The first thing Auntie would actually like to know is whether you have ever met this girl in person. It doesn’t sound like it, what with this “chatting” every day. And jinne, if you two were in bed together that’s groot moeilikheid! But this sounds like a cyberspace relationship.
That’s the problem with dating in modern times, jy wiet nooit wie is aan die anner kant nie.
It doesn’t even matter if she has sent you pictures, die meisies vandag lyk soos hulle in ’n Rihanna music video is. Besides, how would you know if the pic she sent is really her, or hasn’t been photoshopped? Dennis, the only thing Auntie will tell you is to break it off with this kind.
She lied about her age. What else has she lied about?
We can all understand that you are looking for love after your long-term relationship sunk, but don’t be so desperate that you think you can fill that hole in your heart with the interest of a teenage girl. When you are ready, you will meet the right meisie... an adult!