Q
Dear Auntie Pearl, you have to excuse me but my bors is sommer warm and I am struggling to stay cool over here!
I want to know from you can I sue a woman for taking my husband?
Surely I am able to do this!
This woman has been jolling with my husband for many years, Auntie, but the thing is there is no proof.
They mos work together and now she’s even saying the baby she had more than a year ago is his!
Now, I see she is saying all kinds of things on Facebook and even showing the photos of the child and saying it’s his.
A
Hold up, meisiekind!
Did Auntie get the whole story now – you have been with a man who has apparently been sticking his dinges in someone he works with, but you stayed with him for all these years?
And why do you say he’s been cheating but in the same breath you say there’s no proof – how do you then know he has been jolling?
And now this woman is posting photos of their apparent loskind all over Facebook and alles?
Auntie se bors raak ook nou warm, but it’s for a whole different reason.
This is a very deurmekaar story and Auntie hardly knows where to start.
Sweetie pie, as die ou gemors is, why are you still with him?
If he’s cheating, why don’t you kick him out of your house, out of your bed and your heart?
Here are a lot of allegations being flung left, right and centre, but have you even tried talking to your husband about the situation, and getting it straight from the horse’s mouth?
Has he admitted that he is sleeping around?
If he is denying it, but you still don’t believe him then you should mos get proof and confront him with it.
At the moment Auntie is feeling you’re just making a groot geraas about suspicions you have, with nothing concrete to back it up.
Now you know mos – the key to any good relationship is communication, and sorry to say meisie, it sounds like you and your hubby don’t sort out your problems like adults, but rather like children.
Just for the moment, forget about this other vrou and her child.
You need to decide whether you want to be with this man, or not.
If you don’t, you need to tell it to him straight and then you two must end things.
If you want to stick with him, you need to sort this situation out, whether he was really jolling or not.
Either way, julle twee sal moet praat, to save the marriage or to end it.
Now about this other woman, if she’s so sure your hubby is her baby daddy, then tell her to take a paternity test and prove it.
The truth will set you all free!
And lastly, meisie, sorry, but you won’t be able to sue this vrou.
The Constitutional Court declared that marriage is based on the concept of two willing parties, and where the relationship breaks down it is not appropriate for the law to intervene in people’s intimate affairs.
So, instead of looking for lawyers, Auntie suggests you find a marriage counsellor.