Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I’m 14 and a half, and I like this guy but he’s almost 18 years old.
We both like each other but my parents don’t like him.
I can’t stop thinking about him. My mom said she would klap him if he hangs around our place.
What should I do?
A ai meisiemens, this is mos the sort of thing that can quickly turn into something erg!
In this case Auntie is with your parents.
They are only trying to protect you girlie, en daai’s iets that you’ll only understand when you are older.
You are still their little girl (and at just 14, you are still very young) and they want to keep you away from all the big, bad dinge of the real world!
You’re mos not blind, meisie, you only have to look around you to see what happens to jong meisies who fall for much older boys.
At this stage, four years is a big difference, although it won’t make much of a difference when you are, for example, 18, and he is 22; both of a legal age.
Right now, he is legally an adult, and you are a child.
Look at it from your parents’ perspective – they see this older berk as a threat.
Who’s to say he won’t praat jou kop om to have sex with him, and who knows what other things he could be getting up to when you don’t see him – jolling around, using drugs and alcohol and partying till dawn with his brasse.
Believe me, no parent in their right mind wants to expose their young daughter to such a lifestyle.
Jou tyd sal kom, my kind. It sounds like your mother knows him, which is why she is so strict about this.
On the other hand, he could be a genuine laaitie so why don’t you speak to you mammie, ask her to meet this boy in person and make up her mind after that.
If he’s as kwaai as you say, and smaaks you stukkend, he will mos grab any opportunity to see your pretty face!
Once your family sees he means no harm, it could be the start of a healthy and safe relationship!