Yes, kids spend the majority of their time at school, where they are influenced by teachers and their peers and there’s very little we can do about that.
But it is natural for children to emulate their parents, even if they hate the fact that they do.
It is imperative that we set good examples in our homes.
More importantly, there must be certain behavioural boundaries that are set in stone.
Every parent wants a child of whom we can be proud; a child who is respectful and mindful, but children like that don’t happen magically.
We are all products of our environments and our influences.
While school gets a large chunk of our children’s attention, we are still the most significant influences in their lives.
Whether you believe it or not, every child wants to make his/her parents or guardians proud.
They want to hear the phrase “well done” and “I love you”.
It drives them to keep excelling and being the best human beings they can be.
But young children also need structure and rules.
It focuses them and helps them to grow up into a world that values the ability to thrive within those boundaries.
Rules are everywhere! I like to make the example of football.
You can be THE very best striker in the world, but if you are unable to play within the white lines, then it’s worthless.
It’s our jobs as parents to show our kids the white lines of life.
But remember that boundaries are nothing without consequences. And I’m afraid this is where most parents fall short.
They don’t want to see their children sad and unhappy, even for a moment, so they tend to cave in and give their kids whatever it is they want.
Or they soften the punishment because they feel sorry for their child.
Punishment in a loving relationship is a good thing and will do your child the world of good.
So, parents, please follow through on the punishment.
If you said no screens for the whole weekend, then stick to your guns, no matter how nice your little one begs.
It’s the only way they learn the permanence of consequences.
The football ref doesn’t forgive you for dribbling outside the penalty line, just because you’re a great player and your mom said it’s OK.