Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I am a guy who is 24 years old and I have this girl who I love the most. She is just the most beautiful thing.
I really do think I want to marry her one day and we even talk about it and when we will get married, but the problem is that I recently got back together with my ex and there are also these two girls who really smaak me as well.
The thing is that if the lady I love finds out what I am doing, it will be over between the two of us and now I don’t know. Who am I hurting here? The girls or myself? Please advise me.
A Player alert, player alert! Sjoe, but you mos skeem you are the bee’s knees, the real cheese, the ultimate ladies’ man and God’s gift to womankind by the sound of it.
Where did you nogals get all this confidence, meneer? No man, kykie, djy moenie versin kom staan en wees nie. Are you really asking Auntie who you are hurting? You are hurting your current girlfriend, of course. She didn’t sign up to be cheated on by a liegbek two-timer.
So you found this girl who you say you “love the most,” but here you are lying to her, hurting her, deceiving her, jolling behind her back and dragging her feelings and love through the mud.
You know she’s not just “the most beautiful thing” as you call her, but she has real thoughts, feelings, and dreams. You are playing with someone and it’s not right.
You are also holding your ex and these two other ladies on a lyntjie and playing with all of them. Do you not care who you hurt in the process or do you just care about how kwaai you look and feel?
And listen up, Mr. Lover-Lover, Auntie really hopes you're not in bed with all four, or even just two of these ladies.
If that’s the case, you aren’t only playing with their hearts, but also with their health because you could be spreading STDs or HIV, or worse, making them preggies with your babies.
Safe sex is the only sex, and that means always wearing a condom – the last thing you want to do now is to have an STD, HIV-positive status or an unwanted pregnancy to come and mess this besigheid up even further. It’s already deurmekaar enough!
The best thing for you to do is to break it off once and for all with your ex, ignore those other two girls who apparently “smaak” you, and come clean to your girlfriend – the girl who you plan to marry.
You can not marry her and start a life with someone if it’s based and built on lies. She deserves to know what is happening and have all the information about you before she decides to commit to you and spend the rest of her life with you.
You are hurting everyone around you while you skeem you are living like a playboy. It’s time to grow up and take responsibility for your actions.
Caption: END YOUR WAYS: Guy with Casanova character can’t decide between two women
ISSUE: My estranged husband wants me back