Q Dear Auntie Pearl, I’m 23 years old and have a son with my ex-berk.
We were together for two years and two months and then he left me.
The girl he left me for is so much older and she’s got two kids, both from different dads, and she was married with the one as well.
I asked him how many times now why he decided to leave me and what I did wrong, and he still can’t give me a straight answer.
It’s been six months now already. He only says he wants nothing to do with us.
I can’t keep crawling and asking him to take me back and to be a pa for his son, can I?
What must I do now, what do you think?
From Chantel.
A Aai jirre Chantel, your poor child, Auntie’s heart mos bleeds for you, my angel.
You sound like such a sweet girl, so why is this outjie treating you like this?
Now listen up Chantel, you are probably not going to like Auntie’s answer but you mos came to Auntie for the truth.
The only thing for you to do is to move on, sweetie, it’s the only way, you simply have to get over this oorlamse berk.
You are embarrassing yourself begging and crawling back to this ou, trying to convince him to take you back.
You have to be better than that, meisie, and Auntie believes you are.
What kind of man walks out on his family over another woman?
What kind of guy says he doesn’t want anything to do with his son?
Kom Auntie maak jou wys – a skomgat, that’s who!
Now you need to maak jouself wys that you can be without him, you are better than this and life goes on.
Concentrate on raising your laaitie to be a gentleman.
Six months is a long time to try and get back with someone who by the sounds of it wants nothing to do with you, hartjie.
You can’t continue doing this to yourself, Chantel.
Soos my ma altyd gesê het, jy kannie bloed uit ‘n klip tap nie.
You are losing yourself and your integrity to this man who hasn’t given you a second thought since he dumped you.
Admit to yourself that he is gone out of your life for good, and start looking at your future.