Take a good look at this girl.
This 16-year-old schoolgirl could be your child, little sister, grandkid or niece.
This pretty “angel face” masks an ugly problem that has long gone unaddressed by parents and schools.
The teen made headlines this week when a video she had made was shared and went viral on social media.
It’s one of the most sickening things you’ll see and hear – a rude wake-up call for
In the recording, which has been labelled as an example of “cyber bullying”, the girl trash-talks another schoolgirl with the kind of vile, morsige vloekwoorde you’d only likely hear at the seediest hoerhuis in town.
Munier thought it best not to quote her.
But it wasn’t just the language that filled one with disgust.
It was the mean-spiritedness — the threats that “I’ll come to your house… my stepmom is a cop, my cousin is a lawyer… and I’ll escort you to your grave”.
And it was the attitude – the b!tchy, vain “I’m too sexy, check out my behind, my straight hair and eyebrows”.
She’s clearly watched one too many episodes of Keeping up with the Kardashians.
Ironically, just like Kim K — who blamed her own exhibitionism for being robbed of the millions of dollars worth of jewellery she so gleefully showed off on social media — this child’s vanity got the better of her.
She was obviously too focused on straightening her hair to figure out that making the video and sharing it on social media would expose her to a world of pain.
Now she’s been outed as a cyber bully, and in turn has been bullied by hundreds of people online.
Some nasty jokers have even made memes and videos in her (dis)honour.
Nobody likes a bully, hopefully she and other kids out there have learnt that lesson.
Shame, her arme familie must be mortified.
Now the spotlight has shifted to the issue of bullying, and with October being anti-bullying month, campaigning at schools will surely gather pace.
But is bullying the real issue here, or is it merely a symptom of a deeper problem?
The question we should be asking is: where do kids learn this behaviour?
We can’t only blame the media, after all, Hollywood stars don’t use this vuilbek taal.
Munier thought back to his primary school days, at a
conservative Anglican school.
By the age of 12, he was already acquainted with all the slang and swear words.
There was a laaitie in his class, from Hanover Park, who was 15 or 16 years old already in Standard 5.
He taught us gangster talk, prison sabela, and things about sex and drugs that we should never have been exposed to at that age.
And this is still happening at schools today.
So how do we correct this?
Munier doesn’t have the answers, but this sounds like a job for parents and the Western Cape Education Department.
Moms and dads must teach by example, and pay closer attention to their kids’ development, their friends and activities, and of course what they get up to on their cellphones.
Education bosses and school staff need to play a bigger role in counselling youngsters.
Not just about bullying and the dangers of sex and drugs, but teaching them basic social skills.
Perhaps the most important lesson today’s kids can learn is good, old-fashioned R-E-S-P-E-C-T.