Question:
Dear Auntie Pearl, I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 24.
We were bymekaar for three months and he’s told me he’s in love with me. I thought I loved him too. I like to buy him presents and sometimes I gave him money to go out with friends.
But Auntie, one day he just told me he is leaving me because he is getting married. WTF? My hart is so seer. Please help me get over my heartache. How could he do this to me? - From Shaday
Aunty Pearl's Answer:
Aai Shaday, seems like this vark has just been using you. Sies!
Auntie raak so die moer in for men who prey on women. This guy was just hanging out with you and telling you sweet little lies like “being in love with you” so that he can score gifts and money. What a piece of rubbish.
Don’t let this man ruin your life.
Obviously you are hurting, but you need to keep your head high and move on. It sounds to Auntie like you are a kwaai meisie who has her life in order - you obviously have a job, if you can afford to treat your berk like that. Rather focus on your career, building lasting friendships, and just having a good time.
You will find love when the time is right. You are still young, so don’t rush it.
Kyk na jouself sweetie pie, it’s time to be a tough koekie!