Hubby just drinks and has no respect
Question:
Dear Auntie Pearl, for the past 15 years I have been in a gemors marriage. My husband just doesn’t seem to respect me.
He goes and suips with his friends without telling me where he is going or when he will be back.
And then when I skel him about it, he is rude to me. I am so sad and gatvol.
I actually once did get up the nerve to go see a lawyer to get a divorce, but they just cost me money and didn’t help at all, so I am still unhappily married.
What can I do?
Auntie Pearl's Answer:
Shame, hartjie, your marriage sounds worse than a gatsby with only salad on.
You two are just not right for each other. Daai is so duidelik soos daglig! Auntie just hopes you don’t have children, because that’s a different story altogether.
Anyway, your hubby sounds like a real vark, going out drinking and leaving you to worry at home. It’s clear from your letter that your marriage is klaar, and that you are not even interested in saving it.
Maar hokaai, stop die lorrie.
Maybe you want to stay with him?
If that is the case, then Auntie would suggest you don’t “ skel” him, like you say. If you want to work on the marriage, you have to talk to him like an adult, in a calm and rational way.
But somehow Auntie doesn’t see that happening. It sounds more like you have already decided it’s time to pack up and gooi ’ n lange.
You’ve been dealing with his swak style for 15 years. Daai’s too long to suffer, girl! Tune him you are klaar, and then you start building a new life.
Don’t go back to that lawyer you saw last time, rather contact the Cape Town Legal Aid Board on 021 426 4126 or the Women’s Legal Centre on 021 424 5660 to help you with the divorce, and to get your power back.