Mom and daughter meet after 47 years



May 3, 2016
Mom and daughter meet after 47 years

Ronelda van Wyk meets her mother Adelaide Plator, 75. CREDIT: Noor Slamdien

Mom and daughter finally reunited

This mom and daughter have been reunited nearly 50 years after being ripped apart.

Adelaide Plato, 75, has waited 47 years to finally see the daughter, put up for adoption in 1969.

The Beacon Valley, Mitchells Plain, vrou had three children in the late 60s.

But her three-year-old daughter was given up for adoption by her own mother without her knowing.

Back then she worked as a cleaner in a hotel, and was unable to look after her daughter Ronelda, also known as Poppie, and her other two children.

“My mother looked after my two other children, I left the baby (Poppie) with my best friend, Asma, who stayed in Hout Bay.”

“We used to visit her on Sundays when I wasn’t working, but then Asma’s friend Mrs Nel took her in,” she says.

During a visit by Adelaide to Poppie, Mrs Nel told the child: “Say hello to the Aunty.”

But Adelaide told the child: “I’m not an aunty… I’m your mommy.”

This upset Nel who banned her from visiting.

Without her knowing, Adelaide’s mother then arranged for Poppie to be adopted by the Nel family who moved to Walvis Bay, Namibia.

Over the years Adelaide was divorced and remarried, having a total of 11 children.

But she always kept searching for Poppie.

A few years ago she placed an ad in the paper, asking people if they knew the Nels’ whereabouts.

Soon someone from Namibia contacted her and she made contact with the Nels who allowed her to speak to Poppie – then 13 – on the phone only.

Then a chance encounter at Groote Schuur Hospital in 2014 with her friend Asma’s daughter led Adelaide to her Poppie.

Last week the Daily Voice was present when Poppie arrived at Adelaide’s doorstep to visit her.

Poppie says: “When Mrs Nel died in 2000, I was going through her things and I found the papers that I was officially given away for adoption.”

“I told my husband and I was shocked because I had no idea that papers were signed…”

Time has healed all wounds for ma en dogter and Poppie says she’s not angry.

Ek kan nie vir my ma oordeel nie, en ek kan nie vir die Nels oordeel nie. They raised me and they looked after me, my mother [Adelaide] did nothing wrong…dis alles history,” Poppie says.

When they finally laid eyes on each other, they hugged each other tightly.

Poppie says: “From my side I am just grateful that God spared both me and her to eventually find each other and have this time together.”

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